1.Focus & listen intently. The first is to mentally make a decision to remember the name before you hear it. This focuses your brain and directs it to store the name in your long-term memory. You can imagine that this person is very powerful and important and that it's in your interest to remember their name! By making an effort to focus, you will also naturally lean in and listen more intently when they say their name。
1.集中精神,仔細(xì)聆聽。首先,在進(jìn)行談話前,你要暗示自己先記得對(duì)方的名字。這樣會(huì)讓你的大腦集中精力,直接將這個(gè)心理暗示存儲(chǔ)到大腦的長期記憶空間。另外你要想象,這個(gè)人是很有權(quán)威,且非常關(guān)鍵重要,那你就會(huì)提起興趣去記住此人的名字了!努力去集中精神,你就會(huì)自然而然地傾聽并專心留意對(duì)方的名字。
2.Repeat the name. The second is to repeat the name back to the person you have just met. You can take this a step further by asking them to spell their name or asking them the origin of their name. This extends the conversation and provides more mental "triggers" for you to recall the name at a later stage. It also builds rapport because you are showing an interest in their name. Remember to only ask these questions if it makes sense to do so (i.e. the name is unusual). People may question your intelligence if you ask them how to spell common names like "Dave" or "Sarah"!
2.重復(fù)對(duì)方的名字。第二點(diǎn)就是要重復(fù)你新認(rèn)識(shí)的人的名字。想要印象深刻,你還可以讓對(duì)方拼寫名字,或者讓對(duì)方說說取該名的緣由。這樣做不僅能擴(kuò)展話題,還能在你腦海中建立該名字的記憶觸發(fā)點(diǎn)。這些問題同樣可會(huì)幫助構(gòu)建人際關(guān)系,因?yàn)槟銓?duì)對(duì)方的名字表現(xiàn)出了興趣。不過要記住,只能問些有意義的問題那(也就是說對(duì)方的名字要很特別)。假如,你問對(duì)方一些簡單名字(如Dave和Sarah)的拼法,他會(huì)覺得你的智商很低。 |