You only have 90 seconds, so the important point here is the 'first impression'. Below is a list of quick and easy steps which will get people to like you.
你只有90秒的時(shí)間,所以最重要的莫過(guò)于“第一印象”。下面是一些快捷簡(jiǎn)單的步驟能讓別人迅速喜歡你。
1.Compliment them.
夸贊他們
The easiest, quickest way to get someone to like you almost instantly is by complimenting them. I'm sure we have all experienced that even the smallest of compliments can make our day. Compliment them on what they are wearing ("What a beautiful dress you have, it really suits you") or something that they've done ("Hey that's a really clever way to tie your shoelaces, I'll have to try that next time"). This works because naturally, it is hard to dislike someone who is saying nice things about you.
讓別人喜歡你最簡(jiǎn)單最快捷的方法莫過(guò)于夸贊她們。我相信每個(gè)人都體驗(yàn)過(guò)一個(gè)小夸獎(jiǎng)能讓我們開(kāi)心一整天的時(shí)刻。夸贊他們的衣著(你今天穿的裙子好好看啊,真的很適合你),或是他們做了些什么(這么系鞋帶真的很好誒,我下次也要試試)。這個(gè)會(huì)非常自然,伸手不打笑臉人呀。
2. Smile.
微笑
Smiling makes you look friendly, approachable and cheerful. These are qualities that people generally like to associate themselves with.
微笑會(huì)讓你看起來(lái)非常友好,容易接近,更快樂(lè)。這些特質(zhì)都讓別人樂(lè)于和你接觸。
3. Eye contact and body language.
眼神交流和肢體語(yǔ)言
This is important to show that you are polite and respectful. Make sure you make eye contact with the person you are speaking to and keep your body language open. For example, don't keep looking at the ground or staring into space, or talk with your arms crossed. This will make you look rude and unapproachable.
眼神交流和肢體語(yǔ)言。要顯示出你的禮貌和尊敬,這一點(diǎn)至關(guān)重要。確保和別人說(shuō)話(huà)時(shí)有眼神交流,別忘了加一點(diǎn)肢體語(yǔ)言進(jìn)去。比如,不要總是東看西看或者盯著空白處,或是交叉雙臂與人交流。這只會(huì)讓你看起來(lái)十分粗魯和不易接近。
4. Ask questions.
問(wèn)問(wèn)題
When engaged in a conversation with someone, be sure to ask them questions about themselves. People generally like to talk about themselves, so it is fairly easy to get people to like you by being a good listener and taking interest in what they are saying. On the other hand, make sure you bring up some interesting things about yourself as well, to keep the conversation open and reciprocal.
和別人交談時(shí),別忘了問(wèn)一些關(guān)于他們自身的問(wèn)題。人們都樂(lè)于去談?wù)撟约,所以要想別人喜歡你,不如當(dāng)一個(gè)好的傾聽(tīng)者,對(duì)他們談?wù)摰脑?huà)題感興趣。另外,確保你能從自身引發(fā)出一些有意思的東西,使得這個(gè)話(huà)題可以一直繼續(xù)下去。
5. Know their name.
知道他們的名字
If you are meeting someone for the first time, it is assumed that within the first 90 seconds you will get their name. Remember it, and use it. At the end of the meeting, say your goodbyes but make sure to use their name, as it makes it more personal ("It was lovely to meet you Grace, hope to see you again soon").
知道他們的名字。如果你第一次和別人見(jiàn)面,最好能在最初的90秒之內(nèi)記住他們的名字。記住,叫出來(lái)。見(jiàn)面結(jié)束之后,喊出他們的名字說(shuō)再見(jiàn),這會(huì)更親密哦(“Grace,認(rèn)識(shí)你真開(kāi)心,希望下次能快速見(jiàn)面”)。
6. When in conversation, try to talk only about good or positive things.
談話(huà)過(guò)程中,盡力只去說(shuō)好的積極的事情
These are a lot more pleasant to hear than negative things. Talk about what you like or enjoy doing, your hobbies and special interests. Try not to badmouth anything or talk about your dislikes, because if you only have 90 seconds and are going on first impressions, you don't want the other person to think you have a pessimistic view of life.
談話(huà)過(guò)程中,盡力只去說(shuō)好的積極的事情。這比聽(tīng)那些消極的事情要舒服多了。說(shuō)說(shuō)你喜歡什么,喜歡干什么,你的樂(lè)趣和特殊的興趣。不要總是大嘴巴的去談?wù)撃悴幌矚g什么,要知道你只有90秒的時(shí)間來(lái)留下第一印象,你也不希望別人對(duì)你的評(píng)價(jià)是悲觀厭世吧。
7. Dress appropriately.
合適的穿著
People judge on first impressions (and this includes your clothes) so make sure you dress appropriately for where you are. Nobody likes to see someone in home clothes at a fancy restaurant or someone with make up caked on their face at the gym.
第一印象對(duì)人們而言至關(guān)重要(包括你的衣服),所以確保你的衣服合適當(dāng)時(shí)所在的場(chǎng)合。沒(méi)有人喜歡在高級(jí)餐廳看到別人穿著睡衣或者是在健身房看到別人畫(huà)著妝出現(xiàn)。 |